Upgrading an Engagement Ring June 13, 2017 – Posted in: Jewelry Blog

There are basically two schools of thought when it comes to upgrading an engagement ring. The first is “No, never, it’s a sacred thing”, with the other saying “Why not? Where’s the harm? I’m ready to go bigger and better!”.

It’s a difficult question to answer, of course, but we think there are many reasons why it is okay to get a different ring, so when and how do you go about it?

Why you may want to upgrade your engagement ring?

People change, our tastes change, our lifestyles change, our lives change. It may well be that, when you bought your original engagement ring, your budget wasn’t anywhere near what it would be today. Alternatively, what seemed beautiful 20 years ago might seem a little dated or even unattractive today. There are many reasons why you might want to change your engagement ring or buy a bigger one, and none of them are because you don’t want to be engaged any more.

Unlike a wedding band, which has both emotional and legal attachments, an engagement ring is a sign, a signal of intent to marry without carrying any of the wider formalities of a wedding. As such, the ring is a little less permanent and, therefore, a lot more subject to change if it’s needed or wanted.

How to Upgrade an Engagement Ring?

Of course, upgrading your ring doesn’t necessarily mean a complete replacement. It might just mean resetting a stone or adding other stones if the current setting allows it. You can add color with sapphires, rubies or emeralds. You can, if the band is still in good condition, add decoration to the shoulders or even some engraving.

The fact is that an engagement ring can be upgraded at any time, and in whatever manner you see fit, although asking your partner about it within a few weeks of receiving the original ring might just be a little too early!

A good time to bring the subject up might be when finances have changed sufficiently that an upgrade won’t cause any hardship. Any changes at this stage will almost always be aesthetic, not sentimental, so there’s no real point in exposing yourself to struggling to pay for the changes you want. If you have a budget which restricts what you can do, then consider how best to get the most bang for your buck. The center stone will almost certainly be the most expensive part of any engagement ring, so see about building around that.

The 3 Ways to Upgrade your Engagement Ring

1. Upgrade the Diamond

The first way to upgrade your engagement ring would be to change elements in the original ring that improves its worth.

For example, you can switch out the original center stone that is 1.5 carat, J color and VS2 clarity and putting a 1.5 carat, D color and VVS1 clarity. The quality of the “upgrade diamond” is considerably better, but aesthetically the ring would look the same.

2. Modify the Engagement Ring

The second way to upgrade your engagement ring would be to change elements in the original ring that improves its worth and its appearance. This option involves asking an expert jeweler* to modify the existing engagement ring aesthetically (usually, in addition to adding stones that are of a higher value).

For example, you can switch out the original 1.50 carat diamond and put inside a 3 carat diamond, and then add more diamonds along the shank.

*Please note, that we strongly caution those who choose this option to only hire expert jewelers. There is a lot that can go wrong when performing large modifications to jewelry, and a jewelry who isn’t qualified enough will cause irreparable damage to your ring.

3. Upgrade the Engagement Ring

The third way (and the most popular option) is to sell the original ring (or put it aside as a family heirloom) and purchase another ring in addition to the first. This option give you the most amount of freedom and doesn’t limit any of your options.

Final Thought

Really, using the word “upgrade” is probably a little bit unkind, as it implies the original ring isn’t good enough and that’s probably not the case. It isn’t about spending money just to be seen sporting a huge diamond or waving it about to impress people, it’s about re-modelling what you have, in order to make it more in tune with your personality. If that means the ring makes a statement that is a little bolder than before, then so be it.

There’s lots to think about when getting engaged and the ring, although important, is just one of them. People buy cars – and even houses – they end up dissatisfied with, so why should engagement rings be any different? The key is that you really don’t want to be doing it too often, so choose your time, and your changes, carefully.

Engagement rings are a precious thing, but they’re neither infallible nor immovable. With care, a good ring can become a great one, so don’t be afraid to make the decision to upgrade or re-model. You change over time, why shouldn’t your ring?